Couples therapy is about investing in your life for an outcome you’ve always wanted, to feel closer, more secure, more connected to your partner. I am inspired by working with couples, and seeing them feel more connected after periods of difficulty. Couples Therapy not only makes your relationship better, it will make your life better!
Imagine the things that triggered anger or defensiveness not having power over you. When your relationship is going well, there’s more energy and confidence available to take risks and live your best life.
We all have needs to connect with others, that’s called attachment. We are wired with attachment needs and it is a biological imperative from cradle to grave. When we don’t get our attachment needs met, fears and longings arise. You might have painful emotional experiences that include arguments, disconnection, lack of intimacy, betrayals, addictions, loneliness isolation or even questioning your relationship. "Emotion is the messenger of love." We will work together to uncover the “messenger of love” that may have gotten lost between you and your partner causing you pain and blocking you from closeness.
“Mena is thoughtful and compassionate - she creates a safe space that gives us permission to be vulnerable. Her patient, yet persistent manner has been instrumental in transforming our relationship.”--Mike and Becky
As a couple’s therapist, I work to help you feel more connected to each other, so you reach for each other instead of away from each other. You deserve more love in your life and you deserve that now! As a couple’s therapist, my job is to help you understand how you get stuck in these difficult places, and to help you move through them with more ease.
I use two approaches when working with couples. An Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) approach and a Psychobiological Approach to Couples Therapy (PACT). Both EFT and PACT are based on attachment theory – a theory that impacts all humans, starting in infancy, creating patterned responses that we all bring into our relationships as adults.
Studies show that 90% of couples treated with EFT therapy improve significantly and 70-75% recover completely. And we know using the PACT method (which combines attachment theory, neuroscience and regulation theory), helps us understand how our wiring (brain, nervous system, body) impacts our closest relationships through biological bonding (attachment) needs and wants.
An EFT roadmap for couples
In EFT there is a map we use to help you get from feeling stuck in your relationship to a more loving connection.
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